Does this sound familiar?

Just some of the things i'm working on...:) - PS you might want to share this list with your new mom friends boo.  

No matter how painstakingly daddies-to-be pore over the pregnancy and parenting guides, there’s invariably a lesson or two they’ll overlook about dealing with a new baby and a postpartum woman. And, according to Bumpies, guys tend to miss the same few things over and over. From real moms, here are the top things women wish new dads knew (yes, there’s an entire section dedicated to diapers).

Pregnant women/new moms: Print it out, add your notes, and hand to your husband. New/soon-to-be dads: Memorize it. Now.

#1. We still want to feel sexy.

1. "After having a baby, we never get tired of you telling us that we’re still sexy and that we look ‘the same’…even though our jeans tell us that’s not entirely true!" -- gearheadsbride
2. "Even though she’s now the mother of your child, she’s still your wife and wants to be treated that way." -- chromiumman
3. "New moms need just as much attention as that cute baby!" -- harmonden
4. "All we want is to be loved, appreciated, and told how amazing we are -- not just as moms, but as sexy wives too." -- Emmajoanne

#2. We’re new at this too…and it’s hard.

1. "We may be nurturing and maternal, but we’re really scared too." -- soulcandybt
2. "Spending time with the baby during the day isn’t a series of lounging and naps for new moms. It’s hard work entertaining a baby!" -- kim*mik
3. "We’re making it up as we go along too!" -- ljpeach
4. "Just because we’re at home on maternity leave doesn’t mean that we aren’t working all day as well." -- kpropes
5. "We’re not superwomen." -- Berwyn

#3. We still love you; we’re just tired and cranky.

1. "The desire for you is still there, even though we’re exhausted!" -- Tina12312
2. "Although the attention obviously shifts a bit at first, we love you more than ever!" --Soon2BMrs.P
3. "We get a little cranky, but don’t take it personally." -- kathypease
4. "All the moments when we ‘take over’ as new moms are simply a mom compulsion and have nothing to do with not trusting your ability to take care of the baby." -- ChiTownHipster
5. "We may want sex less (at first), but we love you even more than before." -- txterri

#4. Pregnancy, childbirth, and breastfeeding are NOT easy.

1. "Leave Mommy’s boobies alone!" -- lsl_53@yahoo.com
2. "How it feels to be a woman and have all these goofy things coming out of your body -- babies, placentas, milk, etc." -- bethann5
3. "The after-birth pains are as painful as early labor." -- HSlater351
4. "How long it takes to REALLY recover from pregnancy." -- kdkdkd
5. "How emotional and difficult breastfeeding can be. The first two weeks are crucial and extremely hard for a new mother. There’s no way a new dad can ever understand the effort a new mother goes through to try and do the right thing when a thousand opinions are flying at them, plus issues such as latching, production problems, etc." -- CoolMama

#5. We need some help…and some breaks.

1. "We’re so tired and emotional. Bring us a simple meal with a flower and take a walk with the baby while we eat and nap. Everyone will be happier in the long run." -- jjampm
2. "We need our naps, so thanks for changing the diapers and turning away unexpected visitors." -- choochoo428
3. "Tell us it’s okay when we get a little grumpy." -- shanstan
4. "When you watch your own kid, it’s NOT considered ‘babysitting.’" -- pielum
5. "Your support is needed after birth just as much -- or more! -- as during pregnancy, labor, and delivery." -- Linnea_Ann
6. "You can be very helpful without being asked to help first." -- edq143
7. "Just holding the baby isn’t really helping. Try cleaning the bathrooms or making dinner." --idahomom
8. "Sleep deprivation is soooo hard to live with. Give your wife lots of help during the day." --impnpixie

#6. Diapers diapers diapers!

1. "How to change diapers without vomiting." -- indygoldenmom
2. "How to not use the entire box of wipes for one dirty diaper!" -- jananddom
3. "I’m not the only one who should change our baby’s diaper!" -- BusterJess
4. "How to properly change a diaper…and dispose of it!" -- ashley17
5. "Moms need sleep too, and poop doesn’t kill." -- auntiethesis

Run to you....

Aww....you've got to listen to this version of this song...http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rm5-1TluPMI&feature=related 

Holding you in the storm

Hey baby, 

I loved holding you early this morning during the throws of the storm...it made me think of a poem i'd read so i wanted to share it with you...
Holding Hands


We sit together, your hand in mine
Time matters not, all is fine; 
The simple touch of skin to skin, 
Stirs a warmth that reigns within.


Hand in hand, all barriers dissolve, 
Our souls merge, all cares resolve;
An energy flows from your hand to mine
Fills my heart, soul, and mind.


Touching so close, the world fades away, 
Reality dims in loves strong sway;
Words are not needed, none are said, 
By just a touch, our souls are wed.


Looking forward to holding you some more :)

Why i love you more today than yesterday...

Thanks baby for being with me through these difficult adjusting periods of the last few weeks...i promise we'll pull it together soon and get into a more comfortable groove.  You've been great though, taking care of things at home when crisis have come up and also comforting me even when you may not have completely understood why or what was going on.  


I'm glad that I picked the right woman for me!  I won't imagine another person who could do the things you've done, demonstrate the grace under fire, and still be an inspiration for me as I watch you with our daughter everyday.  Riles is blessed to have such a great mom and i'm certainly blessed to have such a great wife.  

The love of my life

I can't tell you how many times this past week I've been able to depend on you as my rock, and seen you come through for me!  I love you, I love you, I love you!  There's not another woman who can take your place, i'm convinced that God designed you with me specifically in mind.  You know how to say the right words at just the right time (like when you gave me good advice the other night) and you know how to say them in the way that i'll best receive the message.  


I know it's been a long week for both of us, I just wanted to let you know how continualy impressed by you I am.  From the beginning of this week, seeing you light up when we went shopping and knowing that you're such a beautiful woman- I got goosebumps when I saw some of your confidence come back when you were wearing your new clothes!  


I'm looking forward to spending time with you later either today or this evening :)

Thinking about you...

You know, Mrs. Samantha Wakefield, you don't make it easy being your husband sometimes....ok, that was probably the wrong way to begin.  Let me start again.  


I think I miss you.  Nope, I'm sure of it.  That's what I think is so difficult about being a new parent for me.  I don't get to see you one on one.  And when we do get the rare moment alone, one of us (usually you for good reason) is usually too tired or doesn't feel like being touched or bothered.  I was really looking forward to today being a time where we could at least get away for a little bit of time, perhaps for a few hours where we could reconnect.  I miss being able to just spend time with you without thinking about what's happening with Riles (who, coincidentally is now passed out on the floor next to me...).  


Man, this learning how to be a new parent thing is really kicking our asses huh?  Lol, well, I'm glad to be in the trenches with you.  It's not all that bad (in fact it's pretty awesome most of the times), but there are good days and bad days sometimes...just don't let the bad days change your mind...remember that PJ morton song?  Ok, now i'm rambling...i'll see you when you get home.  


SDW3

It's been a long time...

It's been a long time since I've written specifically to you...  Do you remember how when we used to date, and during the first few years of our marriage i would write little notes to you sharing my thoughts?  Yea, those were simpler times it seems.  Now, it seems like there's so much other stuff to do, who has time to do any of the simple things right?  I hope that's not the case, I mean I really hope so.  


I've got to tell you baby, I don't like all the fighting we've been doing recently.  It seems like we argue about way too much.  I mean, really, the thermostat?  I remember a time period when things like that wouldn't even phase us.  Now, it's the starting point for WW3!  


While I was in the barber shop this morning, my barber was telling me about his anniversary coming up (2 years) and he was joking how he's trying to get to my level.  He mentioned that it's been tough these first 2 years, but he's had to buckle down and get it done.  It made me feel proud of him, not because I'm familiar with his personal struggles, but because it reminds me that this in fact is a choice.  And I was happy for the choices he'd made to accept responsibility for his marriage.  


Over 5 years ago, I choose to marry you.  And now, as I'm watching Riles ignore Curious George while instead spitting up all over her exersaucer (go figure), I realize that having a child was our choice.  I'm pretty satisfied about my choices, at times ecstatic because I'm so happy about how things have turned out.  Sometimes though, particularly at times when I go too long without reminding myself, I forget how good I have it.  You're a big reason why things are so good in my life and I want you to know that. 


love SDW3